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I am divorced with two grown
up children. I consider myself to have no 'baggage' as such as I was
married for 20 years and was happy for most of that time. I am now
with a man who has been married twice before. The ending of his second
marriage left him quite broken emotionally.
We got engaged after a year
and planned to marry this summer but it appeared he got 'cold feet' and he
cancelled it some months ago. He says it has just been postponed until he
is ready but I don't think I would consider planning another wedding. We
had everything virtually ready so it was a great shock. I had also planned
to sell my property so we could build a new life together so I had put a
great deal of trust and commitment into the relationship. We were living
together but I have moved back out and now live with my two children who
still live in the family home.
If we disagree he gets very
defensive, very quickly - he always expects the worst.
We have an added
complication in his second wife had a daughter from a previous
relationship. She doesn't live with her mother and my partner keeps in
contact with her. However I don't trust her and feel she uses him. He has
told her he will always be there for her which I don't understand because
she doesn't treat him well. It sounds like I am jealous but there is much
more to it than that.
At the moment I don't know
where the relationship is going. I am happier living apart (for one thing
I only now have one home to clean!) and I feel it will be a very long time
before I commit myself to the relationship again.
