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I have learned there are
some occasions where you just cannot be friends with your stepchildren!
After 30 years of marriage together - very happily - I am now experiencing
real hostility from my husband's son, himself in his late forties.
I asked him not to use foul
language in our house, which I thought was a reasonable request, and
suddenly received a mouthful of abuse about what he has really thought
about me for 30 years. In his eyes, I have latched on to his father and am
waiting until he kicks the bucket, after which I will apparently become
the merry widow and dance off with the readies. It seems this is all part
of my master-plot from when I met his father all those years ago, and I
have spent over a quarter-century plotting how to cheat him out of his
inheritance!
He says I am also spending
all of my husband's money on things like holidays and going out. He
conveniently makes no reference to the fact that I worked fulltime as well
and put money in the kitty. We are both retired - I don't see why we
should apologise for enjoying the fruits of so many years of our labours.
Sounds unbelievable? But it
is true.
My husband and I were
totally shocked and the son left. However, my husband has insisted on an
apology - both to him and to me - but the stepson is now spreading stories
saying that my husband is losing his mind and is unable to think for
himself and that I am controlling him in some way.
If this wasn't so upsetting,
it would be laughable, but it is worrying me. I am now starting to think
that if the son spreads this around enough people for long enough, then if
the unthinkable happened and my husband died, there might be enough people
questioning my husband's written wishes (of long-standing) and making an
unbearable time even more difficult for me.
My husband is appalled at
his son's actions and is insisting on an apology. I am so shocked after so
many years of what I thought was a civil relationship between us (it has
never been a close one, but I have obviously been blind to his true
feelings), the son is blackening my name and complaining to all and sundry
that "there will be nothing left for him" (his words, not mine).
Well, I feel better writing
this. If you are having stepchildren problems then I sympathise - I do not
know how to handle such longstanding resentment, particularly as the
child's motives have nothing to do with affection for his father but more
the preservation of what he considers his rightful dues!
Well I got that off my
chest, time to pour myself a glass of wine and chill out, I think ....
