As the type of responsible bloke my husband is, he said they should make a go of it even though living with her was a living hell.  She was unpredictable, holds a very strange relationship with her brother that has split up previous relationships, lying, violent and abusive.  She even used to down bottles of alcohol to get to my husband when they had rows to try and kill the baby, she smoked cannabis all through the pregnancy also and still does around the child, she is an irresponsible 36 year old women. 

He was thinking about what was best for the baby and they managed to stay together for about three years and then she decided to take up the offer of a better lifestyle from my husband's workmate and booted him out on his ear.  I can honestly say my husband is one of the most fair, just and kind people I have ever met, it was what drew me to him, that and seeing what a fantastic father he was. But despite this she looked after her own interests and took the baby away from his father which I am quite grateful for else I wouldn't be with him now.

Things weren't too bad at the beginning, we didn't really have the boy too much and just before the wedding she decided we could have him every weekend.

It wasn't till after the wedding that things really started to go bad.  My husband has never really understood how I felt toward his son and I had built up quite a resentment toward him as I wanted what all my friend and sister had, a normal relationship with out having to put up with the evil ex from hell and a five year old that constantly wanted to get between my husband and I.

I hated the mornings instead of looking forward to lying in bed with my husband all cuddled up, I had a kid who insisted on getting in between us and my husband never understood why this upset me.  He loved having 'his boy' in bed with him, it was all I could do not to have him on our Honeymoon with us and in fact we did because we split our Honeymoon into being away for a week and then at home for a week.  Guess who had to come round the very next weekend after the wedding and insist on helping opening the wedding presents....it drove me mad, at least let me have a couple of weeks where she and the boy don't exist!!!

So things just plodded on with me very resentful and very upset every time there was a phone call from the bitch faced cow either badmouthing my husband for something he had supposedly done or crying on his shoulder about the latest relationship problem.  What the hell does she think she is doing, she made her choice to dump my husband and now wants the benefit of crying on him, and because he is so scared she will stop him seeing the boy he lets her do it, it drives me mad. I feel like this stupid mug and I can't even speak to her about it in case it makes her go off her trolley and just stops access.

Thankfully a year later she decided whilst with the next bloke she had moved in with she would let us have the boy every other weekend, finally I would get a break and my husband to myself for at least a weekend!!!

Then he gets a phone call crying because the latest bloke she has made her son live with has decided he wants them both out and thinks he is going to consol her.  It makes me so angry she has that control over my husband.

Now she has just got a place of her own without any blokes in tow.

Last year we found out we had to move out of our place so we decided to try and buy, which we have and its costing us a fortune.  We can manage, but as soon as she found out last year we were buying she went straight to The CSA who started contacting us.  We ignored it because she had written to them years ago when they first split up to say she was being supported by the new boyfriend and didn't need any child support from my husband.  He did buy things that was needed, he always did his bit financially but there was no need to go through The CSA.

We have always given weekly money for the child and anything that he has needed for school etc we bought.

Now she wants The CSA to backdate the payments despite the fact we have been paying her anyway. She is nothing but a jealous bitch that had her chance with a wonderful man and lost it, gave it up and now doesn't want us to be happy at all.

I wish she would clear off, I hate her so much for how she is affecting our life and how we run it. I get on with the boy really well now although I do still get a bit jealous and resentful when I want my husband to myself but he's a good kid with a bad mother.